Hello and happy late Valentine’s Day to you too! I’m glad that you got to enjoy it with someone that you care deeply about. I was one of those single people treating myself on Valentine’s Day because #selflove2020. Anyways, I also saw that you weren’t able to tell your family, specifically your dad, about what you were doing and who you were actually spending Valentine’s Day with. I’m so sorry to hear that your family is not the most welcoming of who you truly are if you were to come out to them. I will never be able to understand what you are really going through, since I’ll never be in your position, however, I do understand what it’s like to be scared to tell your parents of something in fear of their rejection (obviously mine were for other reasons). Anyways, it sounds like your dad really really loves and cares about you based on how you described him. That’s a beautiful and strong thing. Homophobia really is a terrible terrible thing because it’s 2020 people should be able to love who they want to love and I hope that one day you might find the “right” (I put rights in quotations because I don’t know if there will ever be a right time) time to tell your parents because I know you love your parents and want them in your life but you deserve to live life as your true self without having to hid it.
Anyways, I have to agree with you on the fact that the idea of Valentine’s Day is kind of absurd. I for one, have never really been a big fan of Valentine’s Day because I believe that you should love and make your significant other feel loved everyday of the year. Honestly Valentine’s Day is just another way for companies to make money off of people because the advertisement of this day creates a pressure on people, especially guys, to HAVE to buy something for their SO (gotta love capitalism). Don’t get me wrong, if I was dating someone of course I’d appreciate anything they did for me but for real some girls just expect too much and make a big deal when their surprise or gift isn’t extravagant enough. Again, this puts too much pressure on the SO and makes it a lot less genuine and from their heart when they are stressing over impressing their loved one over knowing that no matter what they do their SO will appreciate it. It also shouldn’t be about the material gifts. Honestly just spending time with your loved one is what should matter most. Sure we all love to get spoiled here and there but remember that it’s the moments you make with someone that are the most special because you never know how long you have with them so cheerish those times.
Anyways, that’s my two cents on Valentine’s Day. Thank you for also seeing how the concept of this day can be a bit dumb and that it’s about being around your loved ones and loving yourself. As for everyone else reading this response, I hope you all had a great Valentine’s Day as well whether that was with your loved one, you and your friends, or even just yourself!
Sage ❤
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